After a breakup it might be tempting to drown your sorrowsđ in Rocky Road or spend your evenings Facebook-stalking your former sweetheart.đ Fortunately, there are alternatives for easing your loneliness that do less damage to your waistline and self-esteem.
The time you spend on your own can prepare you to move on. Try these ideas to speed đšup your recovery and ease your heartbreak.đ
Overcoming Isolation
Thereâs a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Still, social support and interactions are essential to your mental and physical health. Hereâs how to stay connected when you find yourself uncoupled.
1. Talk it over. Your friends and family đšâđ©âđŠcan give you the comfort and encouragement you need. Ask for what you want whether itâs a hug while you cry or a sounding board as you figure out what to do next.
2. Check your contacts. đ Fill up any empty hours by reaching out to old friends and colleagues. Invite a former coworker out to lunch. đœïž
3. Volunteer your services. Participating in a charity softball đ„ game or fundraising drive is a great way to extend your network and shift your attention away from your ex. As a bonus, focusing on others will help you to feel happier and more satisfied.
4. Pursue common interests. Find new places to hang out. Join a Meetup group or go to a concert đŒ where youâll be surrounded by others who share your love for science fiction or French cooking.
5. Reach out. Challenge yourself to connect with others. Chat with the waitress at a coffee â shop. Tell your neighbor that his lawn looks beautiful.
Changing Your Thinkingđ€
Itâs great to have friends and family on your side, but you also need to look at your relationship with yourself. Adjusting your perceptions protects you from loneliness regardless of whatâs going on in your love life.
1. Accept your feelings. Youâll probably experience some uncomfortable emotions like angerđĄ or jealousy. Facing up to the truth enables you to learn and grow.
2. Write it out. âïž If your feelings are intense and conflicted, it may help to keep a journal. Notice any obstacles that tend to keep you isolated. Maybe you feel embarrassed about being single or youâre avoiding mutual friends because you donât want to run into your ex.
3. Look for inspiration. Heartbreak is a common condition. Listen to songs đ¶ that remind you that you are not alone. Pick out role models who have built a happier life after a relationship ended.
4. Stay active.đŽââïž Fight the blues by working out or admiring the beauty of nature. đł Even running errands or pulling weeds can distract you from memories that are a little too sensitive right now. Give yourself bonus points for trying something new. đȘ
5. Laugh and play.đ€Ł Itâs easier to attract others when youâre radiating joy and energy. Participate in activities you love and look for opportunities to brighten someone elseâs day. Force yourself to smile and soon it will become automatic.
6. Live in the moment. Keep in mind that your situation is temporary. Take it one day at a time instead of dwelling on the past or projecting into the future.
7. Pray about it. đYour spiritual faith and community can be a source of strength. Contemplate your purpose and what kind relationship you are seeking.
Itâs natural to struggle with loneliness after a romantic relationship ends. Look for practical ways to reconnect, and treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Dealing with loneliness constructively will help you to heal and find the new love you deserve.
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Alice K. Smith, also known as, The Wellness Genius, is Co-Owner and Executive Vice-President of Natural Living by Design II, LLC an authentic Himalayan Salt Supplier in the City of Detroit.
Alice has been Entrepreneurial minded since 1993 and hasn't looked back.
She grew up in a single family household with my mom and brother. She moved a lot, considering they weren't Army Brats (Lol)đ€Ł She stopped counting after move #38. She attended college for one year and studied: Finance & Entrepreneurship, surprisingly, made the Dean's List without trying, but due to a family crisis, she had to drop out.âčïž
As an adult child of an alcoholic, Alice grew up in a dysfunctional family, not wanting to be like her father, the total opposite was the result, she grew to be a very positive person, full of energy and life! Since then, she has experienced her share of living in abundance to having the bottom fall out from under her feet. Resilience, Fortitude, Strength, Courage, Boldness and Patience are what characterize her as a woman in business.
Alice is a Woman on Fiređ„ Sharing her personal and business journey along the way of triumphs, defeats, strengths and weaknesses. She is dependable, reliable, honest, confident, diversified, positive, resilient, a motivator, strategic thinker and visionary. Her broad array of skills helps her to facilitate strong customer relationships, promote leadership and development to individuals, direct, plan and coordinate operational matters. Alice is highly energized, focused and driven to accomplish every goal(s) she sets her mind to do. Because of her health challenges, she is dedicated to the Health and Wellnessđ Industry and strives to improve her own health as well as others who will listen. We can't help the aging process...but we can grow older gracefully, with a better quality of life - one day at a time.